superglider wrote:
When my man left me 2 days after Valentines day (b*st*rd!!) All that was left was a dozen red roses and a RH cd (Lady's Bridge) and that completely triggered a whole episode of mad, sad thought trails, trying to make sense of it, the loss, the sadness, the reaching out for his friendship through all that hurt, rushing out to get more RH music cos maybe the answers were in there sumwhere ('On the ledge' just kills me) BUT there are no answers-only 'get over it'! and I am sure I will-in time...shit I wish I was a shallow kind of girl and didn't 'feel' like this BUT I guess that this is how great art gets made and beautiful songs and poetry get written. The more we get hurt the more we want to love and be loved and that just opens us up to the risks of being hurt-again.
I live to learn
xxx
Hawley wrote:
we all do some of us learn the hard way,i am sorry that person treated you so badly,but........you still feel and THAT is the most important thing don't become numb.....thts why i don't trust pills they just numb it out i like my pain its who i am.......captain Kirk said that...........correct.........but i understand how some of us can't handle the cold reality too,i feel hurt a hell of a lot......you have to feel what you feel WHEN you feel it.....not block it out..........i suppose that means get over it.......but IN YOUR OWN TIME.....i believe after a break up to become attractive or capable of another relationship you have to make yourself whole again,not half of a whole.....you must become complete..........then you have half of you to give away again............you can't give someone something you no longer have.
lie down
satsuma
Superglider, your scenario sounds frighteningly familiar. This time last year I'd been through the same and was teetering well and truely on the proverbial ledge. Prozac saved me. I know Richard doesn't agree, but for some people it gives you that little nudge to carry on. I was carrying around a blind panic, a gut wrenching feeling that at any time I was going to go under, the prozac stopped that feeling. Helped me rebuild. I'm still struggling to give myself over fully to another person, not to get hurt like I did last year, but then you start pushing people away.
Some people can be complete bastards and dont realise the damage they can inflict on another person emotionally.